You have had dreams of growing a family with your partner but have had a few road blocks placed in the way. If you have walked a path 0f infertility and have not had any success you may be wondering if you should consider adoption or surrogacy. I know this is a hard time. In my practice I work with clients dealing with these issues and questions and it is always challenging and often scary.
The decision to contemplate what lies beyond infertility is highly emotional. And then to start learning about options and the business sides of different processes can be overwhelming. As you start to move past the dream of having a biological child you are hit with many questions you might not be expecting. These questions can include whether you want adoption or surrogacy, private adoption, closed files, do you want to adopt from here in NYC, the United States, internationally? Can we afford all the costs associated with adoption or surrogacy? Each question presents more questions and challenges but it also presents opportunities that will hopefully lead to your establishing a family.
The flood of emotions and hundreds of details can take their toll. I help my clients through this time by using the resources we uncover in you to build up inner strength and an array of possibilities that can bring them closer to having a child. When we meet to explore feelings and options during this difficult time we:
- Discuss letting go of the immediate plan of having a biological child. You are never giving up that hope, you are just starting to grow a vision of building your family in a different way at this time.
- Ensure both partners are on board with the choice to move forward with adoption / surrocacy. This will be an essential piece of working through this together.
- Work through all of the emotions that arise as you face a myriad of decisions. What type of relationship will you want with the birth parents? How are you going to tell friends and family? What will you tell your child and when? Why does it take so long?
I act as an impartial sounding board for you. We explore and work through all sides of the issues so that you gain strength and confidence to face the process of adoption/surrogacy. I can work with you and your partner to try to find peace, resolve, and most importantly, support for each other through this scary yet exciting time of growing your family.