You and your spouse or partner lead busy lives. If on top of that if you’re having difficulty with your relationship, infertility or feel frazzled due to a newborn baby it might help to take some time out to relax and get reacquainted with each other. Dating was the way you originally got to know one another and it’s a good way to learn more about your partner as the relationship progresses.
Maybe it’s been a while since your last date, maybe too long. But continual dating, well into a marriage, is an important way to stay connected through busy times. You get to relax without the distractions of your home (including children) and can spend a bit of time just focused on one another.
There are limitless date options in New York City in the fall or any time of year. Get out and make at least one a date and it doesn’t have to be going out for dinner. Sometimes talking over a meal can lead to heavy discussions and that, in and of itself is ok, but maybe not what you need right now. You may need a date where you don’t talk but just play.
Don’t underestimate the value of playing with your spouse. Children engage in play all the time and it builds their sense of self and solidifies their relationships. As adults, we often don’t have time to just play and that cuts us off from experiencing joy, freedom and the life affirming feeling we get from a good laugh.
When I with couples who are experiencing stress in their relationship I encourage them to seek out adventures they can do together. It is very important to experience and view your partner through a new lens and when you try something new, you get to feel and see your partner in a new light. This broadens the scope of knowledge you gain about your partner and highlights aspects of them you didn’t know were there or had forgotten about.
There are many things you can do to improve your relationship and reduce the stress and tension that’s building between the two of you. One of them is to get help by contacting me so we can talk about your situation, uncover your challenges and develop ways to improve the quality of your relationship.