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Overthinking Conflict
Most people, after they have a conflict, find themselves thinking it through—what happened, why, and what to do about it. Depending on the intensity of the conflict, this can be a difficult evaluation, but it is an important step to … Continue reading
Posted in General Self Help
Tagged counseling, overthinking, overthinking conflict, self help, therapy
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Do You Feel Emotionally Exhausted?
Emotional exhaustion can range in severity from mild to quite debilitating. If you can recognize it early enough, you can take some steps on your own to course-correct and regain your strength. But if it goes on too long and … Continue reading
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Tagged counseling, emotional exhaustion, emotional strain, emotionally exhausted, therapy
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How to Know You Have Outgrown a Relationship
Sometimes, if you have been dating or have been married to someone for a long time, the relationship can feel as comfortable as an old shoe. You know each other through and through, and you really connect. But sometimes, a … Continue reading
Posted in Healthy Relationships
Tagged couples counseling, couples therapy, outgrowing a relationship, strained relationship, therapy
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Learning to Trust Yourself
Trust is critical for any healthy relationship, and that includes the relationship with yourself. You are your own best friend. You are the only person who will be going through all of life with you, the person who should know … Continue reading
Posted in General Self Help
Tagged affirmations, counseling, self doubt, self trust, therapy, trust yourself
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Your Life Is Perfect, but You Feel Unhappy
You thought that once you achieved a certain goal, you would be happy. You assumed that a certain lifestyle, level of income, or circle of friends would be satisfying. But somehow, you’re not happy. Why does this sometimes happen? Success … Continue reading
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Tagged achieving happiness, counseling, feeling unhappy, how to be happy, therapy
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Getting Lost in a Big Life Change
You’ve had a big life change for the better! So why do you feel so anxious or lost? These are natural responses to change, but they should not be overwhelming or interfere with your joy. Whether you are pregnant, have … Continue reading
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Tagged big life changes, counseling, feeling overwhelmed, managing change, therapy
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The Emotional Cost of People-Pleasing
What’s the difference between being generous and being a people-pleaser? The distinction can be nuanced and difficult to discern. Usually, however, a person’s emotional health is a strong indicator of whether the tendency to people-please comes from a healthy or … Continue reading
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Tagged being too nice, counseling, people-pleasing, psychotherapy
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Depressed Because You Feel Left Behind
You had big plans, and maybe some of them were successful at first, but now your life feels stuck. You created timelines and expectations for yourself that aren’t being met, and you feel like your peers are moving ahead while … Continue reading
Posted in Depression
Tagged cognitive behavioral therapy, depression, feeling stuck, psychotherapy, unfulfilled expectations
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The Guilt of Relaxing
Do you ever feel guilty when you relax? You’re not alone. It’s extremely common for highly effective people to feel guilty if they slow down, go on vacation, or even sit and relax for an hour. But why? Is it … Continue reading
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Tagged benefits of relaxation, can't relax, feeling guilty about relaxing, guilt of relaxing, therapist
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Anxiety of High Achievers
As a high achiever, you drive yourself to succeed, and you usually do succeed. But you may also experience anxiety associated with that success. You want peace of mind, but you don’t want to give up everything to find it. … Continue reading
Posted in Anxiety
Tagged anxiety, high achiever anxiety, therapist, type A personality, unhealthy behavior
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