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The Emotional Cost of People-Pleasing
What’s the difference between being generous and being a people-pleaser? The distinction can be nuanced and difficult to discern. Usually, however, a person’s emotional health is a strong indicator of whether the tendency to people-please comes from a healthy or … Continue reading
Posted in General Self Help
Tagged being too nice, counseling, people-pleasing, psychotherapy
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Depressed Because You Feel Left Behind
You had big plans, and maybe some of them were successful at first, but now your life feels stuck. You created timelines and expectations for yourself that aren’t being met, and you feel like your peers are moving ahead while … Continue reading
Posted in Depression
Tagged cognitive behavioral therapy, depression, feeling stuck, psychotherapy, unfulfilled expectations
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The Guilt of Relaxing
Do you ever feel guilty when you relax? You’re not alone. It’s extremely common for highly effective people to feel guilty if they slow down, go on vacation, or even sit and relax for an hour. But why? Is it … Continue reading
Posted in General Self Help
Tagged benefits of relaxation, can't relax, feeling guilty about relaxing, guilt of relaxing, therapist
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Anxiety of High Achievers
As a high achiever, you drive yourself to succeed, and you usually do succeed. But you may also experience anxiety associated with that success. You want peace of mind, but you don’t want to give up everything to find it. … Continue reading
Posted in Anxiety
Tagged anxiety, high achiever anxiety, therapist, type A personality, unhealthy behavior
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Postpartum Anxiety
You’ve just had a baby, and everyone is so excited for you, but you feel like this wonderful time is nothing but stress. You’re expected to host guests and well-wishers who want to see the baby and congratulate you, but … Continue reading
Posted in Postpartum Depression
Tagged baby blues, postpartum anxiety, postpartum depression, PPA, therapist
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Apps Don’t Help Your Relationship Issues
Lots of relationship apps have been developed in recent years that claim to help couples connect and bond. These apps offer suggestions for date nights, send daily relationship questions, or help couples understand each other’s emotional needs. I applaud every … Continue reading
Posted in Couples Therapy
Tagged apps for couples, apps to improve relationships, couples therapy, marriage counseling, relationships
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Dealing with Anger
We often hear of people having “anger issues.” But anger is considered a secondary emotion, generally caused by a primary emotion that is under the surface. The “anger iceberg” can hide deep-seated emotions that can extend as far back as … Continue reading
Posted in General Self Help
Tagged anger, anger management, controlling anger, counseling, psychotherapy
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The Emotional Toll of Infertility
Infertility can be heartbreaking and emotionally exhausting. Although men and women cope differently with infertility, both feel the emotional impact. Couples should turn to each other for support in order to ease the emotional toll and maintain mental health as … Continue reading
Posted in Infertility
Tagged dealing with infertility, infertility, infertility counseling, therapy
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When Anxiety Is Not Just Nervousness
If you have been experiencing anxiety for an extended period of time or have severe anxiety, there may be deep-seated causes that are best addressed with a psychotherapist, who can help you discover those causes and resolve them. Continue reading
Posted in Anxiety
Tagged anxiety, managing anxiety, mental health, nervousness, therapy
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Making New Year’s Resolutions Stick
Our culture has a long tradition of setting New Year’s Resolutions. This is a wonderful idea, but few people follow it—and fewer feel like they’ve actually succeeded in those resolutions. Why is that? The biggest reason is that they have … Continue reading
Posted in General Self Help
Tagged counseling, making a New Year's resolution, new year's goals, New Year's resolution, therapy
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