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How to Offer an Effective Apology
No one is perfect, and sometimes you’re going to make mistakes that hurt others. When you offend your spouse or partner, you’ve hurt one of the most important people in your life. An apology is in order, but many people … Continue reading
Posted in Healthy Relationships
Tagged apology, couples therapy, effective apology, healthy relationships, how to apologize
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Perfectionism and Your Anxiety
Striving for excellence is a praiseworthy characteristic. Excellence, however, should not be confused with perfection. In our imperfect world, perfection is impossible; predictably, perfectionism is often linked to anxiety and panic disorder. It is an important part of the therapeutic … Continue reading
Posted in Anxiety
Tagged anxiety, counseling, overcoming perfectionism, perfectionism, therapist
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Mindfulness and Managing Anxiety
Mindfulness has become a buzzword in the self-help sphere of late, but there’s little real understanding of what it means and how it can help us. I work with my clients in multiple ways depending on what they best respond … Continue reading
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Tagged anxiety, cognitive therapy, managing anxiety, meditation, mindfulness
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Social Media – Anxiety and Depression
More and more studies are showing the connection between social media use and mental health issues such as depression and anxiety. There are many complex reasons at play, and since they are interconnected, it’s hard to say how big a … Continue reading
Posted in Anxiety, Depression
Tagged anxiety, counseling, depression, healthy social media use, social media
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Growing Apart From Your Partner in NYC
Our life experiences have a tremendous impact on our growth as individuals. This is why sometimes couples who are together for many years find that they are very different people than they were when their relationship first began. The way … Continue reading
Posted in Couples Therapy
Tagged couples growing apart, couples therapy, healthy relationships, marriage counseling, relationship problems
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Healthy Boundaries in Marriage
The word “boundary” seems to have a negative connotation – a boundary prevents me from going someplace; it limits me. But if that boundary was a tall fence that keeps you from stepping off a steep cliff, you would be … Continue reading
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Tagged couples therapy, healthy boundaries, healthy relationships, marriage counseling, relationship boundaries
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The Difference Between Guilt and Shame
When you start to experience depression and anxiety, feelings of guilt and shame tend to creep into your thoughts. I help patients process the feelings usually present when they are not feeling well and/or are very anxious about life. When … Continue reading
Posted in General Self Help
Tagged counseling, guilt, self-condemnation, self-talk, shame
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How to Nurture Better Relationships Between Parents and Adult Children
As we grow up, we develop patterns of behavior in our interactions with our parents. No parents are perfect, and no children are perfect. We all have traits, both positive and negative, that have interacted and sometimes been in conflict … Continue reading
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Tagged counseling, family counseling, family relationships, parent-child relationships, parenting
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Dealing with Anxiety: Set Up Your Apartment for Success
Your living arrangements can have a dramatic impact on your mood. Even the layout of your NYC apartment is important. A 2018 study published in the Journal of Urban Health found that apartment layouts in which rooms all branched out … Continue reading
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Tagged anxiety, apartment decor, coping with anxiety, living with anxiety, reducing anxiety
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Can a Support Group Help?
When we are going through a difficult time in our lives here in New York City, we can benefit from supportive, empathetic people to share our journey with us and help lighten the load. Depending on what the issue may … Continue reading
Posted in General Self Help
Tagged self help, support group, therapy
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