Author Archives: Alisa Hafkin

 Dealing with Adult ADHD

Adult ADHD or ADD can be difficult to deal with. Modern life, especially here in New York City, can be highly stimulating, creating stress, distraction, anxiety, and disorganization in some people. But is it actually ADHD? And if so, what … Continue reading

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Mean-Spirited Co-Workers? Here is What to Do

When you find yourself on the defensive at work because of the behavior of a co-worker, try not to respond in kind or make major decisions in the moment. Take some time to evaluate before deciding your strategy for dealing … Continue reading

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Your Mental Health Is Critical

In our modern world, mental health seems to be on the decline–partly due to our fast-paced lifestyle, partly to the intrusion of technology in our lives, and perhaps partly due to the food we eat and the pollutants in our … Continue reading

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Gaslighting at Work

Do you feel that you are being manipulated or lied to at work by a colleague, subordinate, or supervisor? This person may be engaging in behavior known as gaslighting. The act of gaslighting another person is considered abusive behavior and … Continue reading

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How to Offer an Effective Apology

No one is perfect, and sometimes you’re going to make mistakes that hurt others. When you offend your spouse or partner, you’ve hurt one of the most important people in your life. An apology is in order, but many people … Continue reading

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Perfectionism and Your Anxiety

Striving for excellence is a praiseworthy characteristic. Excellence, however, should not be confused with perfection. In our imperfect world, perfection is impossible; predictably, perfectionism is often linked to anxiety and panic disorder. It is an important part of the therapeutic … Continue reading

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Mindfulness and Managing Anxiety

Mindfulness has become a buzzword in the self-help sphere of late, but there’s little real understanding of what it means and how it can help us. I work with my clients in multiple ways depending on what they best respond … Continue reading

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Social Media – Anxiety and Depression

More and more studies are showing the connection between social media use and mental health issues such as depression and anxiety. There are many complex reasons at play, and since they are interconnected, it’s hard to say how big a … Continue reading

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Growing Apart From Your Partner in NYC

Our life experiences have a tremendous impact on our growth as individuals. This is why sometimes couples who are together for many years find that they are very different people than they were when their relationship first began. The way … Continue reading

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Healthy Boundaries in Marriage

The word “boundary” seems to have a negative connotation – a boundary prevents me from going someplace; it limits me. But if that boundary was a tall fence that keeps you from stepping off a steep cliff, you would be … Continue reading

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