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Top 5 Problems to Work on in Your Marriage
Top 5 Problems to Work on in Your Marriage If you got married expecting “happily ever after” without any effort on your part, you’ve probably discovered by now that it doesn’t work that way. Having a healthy marriage takes a … Continue reading
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Causes of Depression
Depression is a complex illness that is often caused by multiple factors. As a counselor, it is important to explore the underlying causes of the depression my clients are experiencing, in order to develop a treatment plan that will be … Continue reading
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Relaxing into Infertility
Probably every infertile couple has heard it: “Relax! Stress causes infertility.” These words can be very painful to couples who have struggled with infertility for a long time. Still, the advice is good for a different reason—struggling with infertility can … Continue reading
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Does a Marriage Counselor Ever Recommend Divorce?
As a couples therapist, my goal is to help couples who experience difficulty in their relationships take personal responsibility for who they are and how each contributes to the relationship. This also means they must be personally responsible for the … Continue reading
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My In-Laws Are Ruining My Marriage!
It is often said that when you marry, you marry your spouse’s family and this feels very unnerving when you have a problematic relationship with your in-laws. It is important that your in-laws know that you, as a married couple, … Continue reading
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How to Talk to Your Spouse about Feeling Insecure in Your Marriage
If you are feeling insecure in your marriage, it is possible that the source of insecurity may not be in the marriage itself, but within you. The good aspect of understanding this is that you now have a starting place … Continue reading
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Dealing with Postpartum Depression
Having a baby can be an exciting and joyful time, but it can also be stressful. New responsibilities along with physical and hormonal changes can create emotional upheaval, either during pregnancy or after birth. Often these “baby blues” last only … Continue reading
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How to Stop Recurring Fights in Your Marriage
Most marital disagreements are recurring. The same issues resurface again and again, often revolving around money, chores, the children, or intimacy. It may seem like they can never be resolved, but the truth is, many marriage differences are resolvable. When … Continue reading
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Be Kind to Yourself When Going Through Infertility
Infertility is a complex problem that rarely has a single cause. It can take time to unravel and can involve many medical procedures, schedules, and lifestyle changes that can add stress to an already stressful situation. Be kind to yourself, … Continue reading
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Three Things that Can Get Better with Couples Therapy
When couples come to me for help, they often start talking about a particular argument or issue they may be having at the time. However, therapy is not about solving whatever the current hot topic may be. Therapy is about … Continue reading
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