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Is Surrogacy the Right Option for You?
One of the areas of focus in my practice as a therapist is helping couples struggling with infertility. Many couples choose to go through medical procedures to help their own natural fertility kick in so that they can bear their … Continue reading
Posted in Infertility
Tagged adoption, infertility, surrogacy, surrogate mother
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“The Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse” and Their Antidotes
As a marriage counselor, I often see very similar patterns in troubled marriages. The great marriage researcher, Dr. John Gottman, grouped these patterns into four categories that he labeled “the four horsemen of the apocalypse” – that is, those behavior … Continue reading
Posted in Couples Therapy
Tagged four horsemen, John Gottman, marriage advice, marriage counseling, troubled marriage
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Understanding Frustration: Causes and Cures
We all experience frustration from time to time in our lives. It is a natural reaction when our efforts to attain a goal are thwarted in some way. The more important we deem the goal, or the more we are … Continue reading
Posted in General Self Help
Tagged coping with frustration, frustration, overcoming frustration
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Infertility – Do You Have the Right Medical Team?
Infertility takes an emotional toll on individuals and couples. In my practice, I counsel many couples struggling to conceive, and I help them navigate their emotions in order to stay mentally healthy. But because infertility can be caused by so … Continue reading
Posted in Infertility
Tagged infertility, infertility treatment, medical treatment for infertility, struggling with infertility
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Fighting in Your Marriage – How to Fight Fair
You and your spouse are different people and you’re bound to have differences in your marriage. Resolving them doesn’t have to be painful. “Fighting fair” means resolving your differences without damaging your relationship. In fact, if done well, it can … Continue reading
Posted in Healthy Relationships
Tagged fighting fair, healthy relationships, resolving conflict in marriage, resolving differences
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Self-Care as the World Opens Up
Depending on where you live, your community could be at any stage of “opening up” after the coronavirus shutdown. And depending on your health or your opinions, you may not be comfortable with what’s going on. While our world remains … Continue reading
Posted in General Self Help
Tagged coronavirus, opening up after shutdown, post-pandemic, self-care, world opening up
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Coping When Your Partner Is an Alcoholic
Your partner’s drinking problem is undoubtedly deeply impacting you, and your children, if you have any. My first advice is that if you are in any danger, get out of there. Don’t put yourself or your children in any danger … Continue reading
Posted in Healthy Relationships, Uncategorized
Tagged addiction, addiction and marriage, alcoholism, alcoholism and marriage, married to an alcoholic
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Sleeping Well When Stressed Out About Infertility
Stress of any kind can have a negative effect on sleep patterns. If your stress is from work or some other life situation, you may be able to take a vacation or change your environment; but infertility is a stress … Continue reading
Posted in Infertility
Tagged infertility and sleeplessness, infertility and stress, trouble sleeping
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Should You Participate in Pre-marital Counseling Before You Get Married?
Marriage counseling before marriage may sound like putting the cart before the horse, as the saying goes. Such counseling is generally referred to as pre-marital counseling (for obvious reasons) and it is not a sign that your relationship is in … Continue reading
Posted in Couples Therapy, Healthy Relationships
Tagged engagement, healthy relationships, marriage counseling, marriage problems, pre-marital counseling
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Addiction and Marriage: How to Know When Enough Is Enough
When a spouse suffers from addiction, the whole family suffers. Addiction is a disease that looks more like a character flaw. In some cases, personality may play a part in the addiction, as well as stressors, past trauma, or a … Continue reading
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Tagged addiction, marriage, marriage counseling, overcoming addiction
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