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Healthy Boundaries in Marriage
The word “boundary” seems to have a negative connotation – a boundary prevents me from going someplace; it limits me. But if that boundary was a tall fence that keeps you from stepping off a steep cliff, you would be … Continue reading
Posted in Couples Therapy
Tagged couples therapy, healthy boundaries, healthy relationships, marriage counseling, relationship boundaries
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The Difference Between Guilt and Shame
When you start to experience depression and anxiety, feelings of guilt and shame tend to creep into your thoughts. I help patients process the feelings usually present when they are not feeling well and/or are very anxious about life. When … Continue reading
Posted in General Self Help
Tagged counseling, guilt, self-condemnation, self-talk, shame
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How to Nurture Better Relationships Between Parents and Adult Children
As we grow up, we develop patterns of behavior in our interactions with our parents. No parents are perfect, and no children are perfect. We all have traits, both positive and negative, that have interacted and sometimes been in conflict … Continue reading
Posted in Healthy Relationships
Tagged counseling, family counseling, family relationships, parent-child relationships, parenting
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Dealing with Anxiety: Set Up Your Apartment for Success
Your living arrangements can have a dramatic impact on your mood. Even the layout of your NYC apartment is important. A 2018 study published in the Journal of Urban Health found that apartment layouts in which rooms all branched out … Continue reading
Posted in Anxiety
Tagged anxiety, apartment decor, coping with anxiety, living with anxiety, reducing anxiety
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Can a Support Group Help?
When we are going through a difficult time in our lives here in New York City, we can benefit from supportive, empathetic people to share our journey with us and help lighten the load. Depending on what the issue may … Continue reading
Posted in General Self Help
Tagged self help, support group, therapy
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Healing From Infidelity
Infidelity in marriage is a tremendous assault on the commitment of the wedding vows. If you discover that your spouse has stepped outside the marriage, you undoubtedly have complex emotions and questions that need to be addressed. For some people, … Continue reading
Posted in Couples Therapy
Tagged couples therapy, healing from infidelity, healing relationships, infidelity, marriage counseling
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How to Heal Your Relationship
Are you and your spouse at odds and unhappy, but want to stay together? Make 2024 your year to address these issues and find loving, mutually supportive solutions. As a psychotherapist in New York City working with couples, I have … Continue reading
Posted in Couples Therapy, Healthy Relationships
Tagged healing relationships, improving your marriage, improving your relationship, marriage problems, relationship problems
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Is Your Marriage Stuck in a Rut? How to Get the Momentum Back
It is common for a couple to find themselves falling into life routines that cause a sense of boredom and monotony in their marriage. The day-in-day-out sameness of modern life seems to suck the joy out of the relationship and … Continue reading
Posted in Couples Therapy, Healthy Relationships
Tagged improving your marriage, marriage counseling, marriage problems
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Late-term Pregnancy Loss
Losing a child is one of the most excruciating pains anyone can experience. Miscarriage also involves the loss of a child, but unfortunately, society does not generally give the same level of sympathy to parents after miscarriage as to those … Continue reading
Posted in Uncategorized
Tagged coping with grief, late-term pregnancy loss, miscarriage, pregnancy loss, stages of grief
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Adoption as an Option
As a couples therapist and marriage counselor in New York City, I see many couples who struggle with infertility. Fortunately, a variety of medical interventions have been developed in recent years that help some couples conceive their own child; however, … Continue reading
Posted in Infertility
Tagged adoption, decision to adopt, marriage counseling, steps in adoption
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