Author Archives: Alisa Hafkin

Criticized in the Workplace

There can be many reasons and causes for receiving criticism in your workplace. Let’s make a distinction here between criticism that comes from a bully or a toxic work environment and work-related criticism from a boss or co-worker who perceives … Continue reading

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What Happens in Your First Therapy Session and How to Prepare

It is perfectly natural to be nervous for your first therapy session. First, know that I applaud your effort in making the appointment. That is a great first step!   Scheduling that first therapy session can be difficult, even frightening. But … Continue reading

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Boundaries Around Election Discussions in NYC

Politics can be an emotionally charged subject for many people, and election season can be especially stressful. If you find that the people around you talk about politics in a manner that makes you uncomfortable, you have every right to … Continue reading

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Election Anxiety in NYC

Every election season is fraught with a degree of tension and stress, but recent and upcoming elections have become increasingly more emotionally charged on both sides of the aisle. No matter where you sit on the issues, you probably feel … Continue reading

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 Dealing with Adult ADHD

Adult ADHD or ADD can be difficult to deal with. Modern life, especially here in New York City, can be highly stimulating, creating stress, distraction, anxiety, and disorganization in some people. But is it actually ADHD? And if so, what … Continue reading

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Mean-Spirited Co-Workers? Here is What to Do

When you find yourself on the defensive at work because of the behavior of a co-worker, try not to respond in kind or make major decisions in the moment. Take some time to evaluate before deciding your strategy for dealing … Continue reading

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Your Mental Health Is Critical

In our modern world, mental health seems to be on the decline–partly due to our fast-paced lifestyle, partly to the intrusion of technology in our lives, and perhaps partly due to the food we eat and the pollutants in our … Continue reading

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Gaslighting at Work

Do you feel that you are being manipulated or lied to at work by a colleague, subordinate, or supervisor? This person may be engaging in behavior known as gaslighting. The act of gaslighting another person is considered abusive behavior and … Continue reading

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How to Offer an Effective Apology

No one is perfect, and sometimes you’re going to make mistakes that hurt others. When you offend your spouse or partner, you’ve hurt one of the most important people in your life. An apology is in order, but many people … Continue reading

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Perfectionism and Your Anxiety

Striving for excellence is a praiseworthy characteristic. Excellence, however, should not be confused with perfection. In our imperfect world, perfection is impossible; predictably, perfectionism is often linked to anxiety and panic disorder. It is an important part of the therapeutic … Continue reading

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