Author Archives: Alisa Hafkin

Does a Marriage Counselor Ever Recommend Divorce?

Posted on January 31, 2020 by Alisa Hafkin

As a couples therapist, my goal is to help couples who experience difficulty in their relationships take personal responsibility for who they are and how each contributes to the relationship. This also means they must be personally responsible for the … Continue reading →

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My In-Laws Are Ruining My Marriage!

Posted on January 20, 2020 by Alisa Hafkin

It is often said that when you marry, you marry your spouse’s family and this feels very unnerving when you have a problematic relationship with your in-laws. It is important that your in-laws know that you, as a married couple, … Continue reading →

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How to Talk to Your Spouse about Feeling Insecure in Your Marriage

Posted on January 13, 2020 by Alisa Hafkin

If you are feeling insecure in your marriage, it is possible that the source of insecurity may not be in the marriage itself, but within you. The good aspect of understanding this is that you now have a starting place … Continue reading →

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Dealing with Postpartum Depression

Posted on December 30, 2019 by Alisa Hafkin

Having a baby can be an exciting and joyful time, but it can also be stressful. New responsibilities along with physical and hormonal changes can create emotional upheaval, either during pregnancy or after birth. Often these “baby blues” last only … Continue reading →

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How to Stop Recurring Fights in Your Marriage

Posted on January 30, 2019 by Alisa Hafkin

Most marital disagreements are recurring. The same issues resurface again and again, often revolving around money, chores, the children, or intimacy. It may seem like they can never be resolved, but the truth is, many marriage differences are resolvable. When … Continue reading →

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Be Kind to Yourself When Going Through Infertility

Posted on January 30, 2019 by Alisa Hafkin

Infertility is a complex problem that rarely has a single cause. It can take time to unravel and can involve many medical procedures, schedules, and lifestyle changes that can add stress to an already stressful situation. Be kind to yourself, … Continue reading →

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Three Things that Can Get Better with Couples Therapy

Posted on August 29, 2018 by Alisa Hafkin

When couples come to me for help, they often start talking about a particular argument or issue they may be having at the time. However, therapy is not about solving whatever the current hot topic may be. Therapy is about … Continue reading →

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Depression and Anxiety Associated with Fertility Problems

Posted on August 29, 2018 by Alisa Hafkin

In the United States, an estimated 1 in 8 couples struggle with fertility issues. The sadness that naturally occurs when people find out they may not be able to have a biological child is significant and may lead to anxiety … Continue reading →

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Couples Activities

Posted on July 18, 2018 by Alisa Hafkin

I want to make my relationship stronger!  If you live and/or work in NYC, you know that it can be a busy place.  And when you are working and living in the hustle sometimes taking care of your relationship gets … Continue reading →

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Sleep and Anxiety

Posted on July 18, 2018 by Alisa Hafkin

Trying to fall asleep when your mind is racing can be very difficult.  When you are dealing with problems in your life and you finally lie down in bed, your mind may drift towards those things that are causing you … Continue reading →

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